Happiness in Relationship

By Adv.  Sandigdha Mishra

''Happiness in Your Relationships"

You don't need to be perfect together you just need to be happy together

We all want happiness—and not just temporary happiness from an experience such as a pay raise, a new toy, or because we just went on vacation to a remote island and had a week without any stress. This is not to say that these things are negative or that it is wrong to experience happiness when such events happen in our lives.

However, it can be detrimental to our well-being when we are dependent on such exterior situations in order to experience happiness. Realistically, most people want to feel happier in daily living, especially in our relationships.

So, how do we achieve that?

In our culture, we are constantly bombarded by messages telling us what creates happiness. We are told that if we drink a specific drink, have a certain car, take a vacation to Happyville, wear a brand of clothes, eat a specific type of food, or have a perfect partner then we will magically become happy. Undoubtedly, these things can make you feel elated for a brief moment—but only while the novelty of the experience is still there. Shortly thereafter, the experience loses its newness and our level of happiness goes down.
Many studies show that people in nations that have the most are also the most unhappy compared to those in less plentiful countries.
This does not mean that you have to live in lack to be happy; it just points out that marketing has done a great job of telling us how to be happy, when in fact, they want us to be unhappy because the unhappier we are the better consumers we become.
Another thing that commercials and advertisements have sold us on is that happiness is the lack of negative experiences or stress in our life. However, it is unrealistic to think that we will go through life without obstacles. Relationships will always experience challenges, so if we are waiting until there are no obstacles before we can be happy... boy, are we in trouble. At the same time, the media has glorified problems and drama in our lives and relationships. This creates a belief that happiness and unhappiness have a dance—when we have one (positive) emotion then we should have the other (negative).

Principles of Happiness in relationship 

1. Let go expectations

2. Creat purpose from experiences 

3. Appreciate little things

4. Be present 

5. Listen to each other and don't try to prove your point.

6. Have a spiritual path

7. Accept you

"Be happy with what you have. Be excited about what you want.”