WARNING SIGNS IN ANY RELATIONSHIP
Warning signs in any Relationship:-
By Sandigdha Mishra, Advocateadvocate.sandigdhamishra@paydirtprofesionals.com
The start
of every new relationship is all butterflies and happiness. Like every other
start, it’s full of promise and excitement and people tend to get lost in it
right from the get go. That other person is often everything we dreamed of,
smart, funny, attractive, the whole works.
It is as
it should be, some would say. What is the point of entering into a relationship
if you’re going to start finding faults with it straight away? That might be
true but we could prevent a lot of heart break, for ourselves and the
other person involved, if we could only critically assess the situation at
the beginning.
Being
honest with yourself doesn’t mean that a relationship won’t work out, it’s
usually the only reason why it works out in the first place. But if we ignore the warning
signs that point to our new relationship being a complete train wreck,
we’re not doing anyone any favors.
There are
several red flags that will point to the fact that the relationship isn’t going
to work out. We will skip the most obvious ones, cheating and physical
abuse should never be tolerated, under any circumstances and if you’re
experiencing it get immediate help and tell someone! Other warnings signs take
the time to notice, however, but that doesn’t mean you should turn a blind
eye or ignore them. After all, you deserve to be happy and not trapped in
a dependent or an unfulfilling relationship.
If you
find yourself getting in arguments and you don’t know why or if either of you
tends to pick a fight for no apparent reason, it may be a sign that you are
experiencing these addictive tendencies. Does this mean your relationship is
doomed? Not necessarily. If both partners are willing to make a conscious
effort to stop the addictive behaviors there still is a chance to have a great
relationship.
The key
is to recognize warning signs that lead to fights before they happen.
Below are
some of the warning signs that a drama cycle may be beginning. Arguments tend
to progress in this order. Keeping your eye out for these behaviors in yourself
or your partner can help prevent escalation.
Warning
Signs to Watch For:
Please
check your and your partner's signs-
1. Is their any Changes in body language
(slouching, looking down, fast breathing, fidgeting, pacing)
2. Is their any Changes in voice and language (raising the voice, negativity, being short, using harsh words)
3. Is their any Negatively interpreting what the other is saying
4. Is their any Invalidating what the other is saying
5. Is their any Bringing the past into the conversation
6. Is their any Using terms such as “you always” or “you never”
7.Is their any Using words and comments intended to hurt the other person
Initially
it will be difficult to become aware of the cycle and stop it; just like any
addiction, it will take time to break through the patterns. Don’t beat yourself
up if you catch yourself in the act, this is the goal! What matters is that you
become more aware of these behaviors as they begin so that you can stop
yourself before that addictive dose of adrenaline kicks in. The more you can
stop yourself, the less frequently you will find yourself engaged in that
insane drama.
"Once you
become aware what you are doing it, the cycle loses its power."
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